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Twelve Steps to Recovery from Idealism

July 21, 2011
There are those moments in life when a person feels a sense of how things should be, but realize deep down that there is little likelihood that such an ideal could reach fruition, as life, and people, are filled with variables which when combined, make life what it is – the reality of life, as it were.


However, there are those who seem to fail to grasp the realities which would render any particular idealism as pointless. They fail to understand others who realize the folly of such an ideology, as not being simply cynical, but have balanced the precepts of idealism vs reality.


The hopeless idealist is very often surprised and disappointed when an ideological pathway, laid out with perfect intent and consideration, is neither embraced, traveled, nor determined by others to have a destination of any relevance. To the hopeless idealist, the fault is not their own, but rather that of some unseen force or unanswered question.


An idealists most used verbiage of reasoning includes, “It will work because it has to”, “I have faith in people”, or “people should just be made to do it”. The arguments, like the ideology, having no basis in reality, fail miserably, and leave the idealist disenfranchised and disheartened for the simple fact that they have yet to find balance with reality.


Not to worry, there is hope. There is a way for an idealist to come to grips with their crippling maligned logic disorder, and that is through a 12 step program of recognition and letting go. To the hapless idealist, I offer these 12 steps as a basis for your recovery:

For the hopeless idealist to recite at group meetings-

• Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over our idealisms – that our expectations had become utterly unrealistic.


• Step 2 – Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could open our eyes to the essence of what is.


• Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.


• Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ideals which had no root in reality.


• Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our incapacity to realize reality.


• Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of thinking.


• Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortsightedness.


• Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed by insisting that they must follow our idealisms, and became willing to make amends to them all.


• Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would enforce another nonrealistic ideology.


• Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we began to format any feel good idealism, promptly admitted it.


• Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying not only for knowledge of God’s will for us, but the power to sustain from our own self indulgent idealisms.


• Step 12 – Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other idealists, and to practice reality in all our affairs.

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